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Understanding "Normal" Behavior & Meltdowns

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Why is my child acting out or having more meltdowns than usual?

It is common for children to express grief through behavior rather than words. What looks like irritability, "misbehavior," or a meltdown is often an outward expression of mourning. Children often feel grief in "small doses," moving quickly from intense sadness back to play. This is a natural coping mechanism to avoid becoming overwhelmed.

Is it normal for my child to act younger than they are?

Yes. Regressive behaviors—such as wanting extra comfort or acting like a younger version of themselves—are common and usually temporary. It's also normal for children to feel numb or fearful after a death. Reassure them that they are safe and will continue to be cared for.

Could my child think this is their fault?

Children sometimes engage in "magical thinking," where they believe their thoughts or actions caused the death. It is important to gently and repeatedly reassure them that they are not responsible for what happened.

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